Forgiveness is an act of obedience to God. We forgive not because we feel like forgiving but because we love God and want to obey what He says.
Forgiveness is our part, forgetting is God’s part. When we make the decision to forgive, out of obedience to God, then He takes care of our hurt feelings and brings us into a healing process.
Forgiveness is about releasing the person’s control over you. It is for you and not for the person who has hurt you. It is for your own peace of mind. It is like saying to the person who has inflicted pain on you: “You are not going to hurt me anymore. Here, take my hurts and everything you’ve done to me