WHY IS MY HUSBAND ALWAYS ANGRY?🤷😢

 WHY IS MY HUSBAND ALWAYS ANGRY?🤷😢

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You are sure he was not like that before now. He used to be so caring, so loving and so affectionate, but you are lost in trying to find out what actually is the matter with him.

He now keeps late night at drinking parlours; no longer eats your food; no longer talks to you in a friendly way, and is always threatening to do away with you.

Apart from the operation of the wicked satanic forces, l would like you to consider the following factors:-

* Did you stop dressing elegantly?
* Did you stop satisfying his sexual needs?
* Are you a seasoned cook?
* Are you coordinating the affairs of your home prudently?
* Do you still consider it imperative to forgive his errors and let go of every unpleasant past?

Hear me: lt is in your hands to BUILD YOUR HOME….let nothing distract you from doing that.

👉If He Stopped Celebrating The PRINCESS You Are, Maybe You Stopped Treating Him As The ROYALTY He Is!!!

(©️ Bro Frankchima Okorie…. Marriage Clinic)

QUESTION:-

(1.) WHY IS THE FOCUS ALWAYS ON THE WOMAN?

(2.) HOW ABOUT HUSBANDS LOVING THEIR WIVES AS INSTRUCTED BY GOD?

(3.) HOW CAN A WOMAN PRAY FOR AN UNLOVING HUSBAND?

(4.) HOW ABOUT THE WAY CHRIST LED THE CHURCH?

(5.) WHAT SHOULD THE SINGLES  DO TO AVOID COSTLY MISTAKES IN MARRIAGE?

👉 (Please If you have  answers to any of these questions,  kindly share by writing  them on the comment box. Thanks🙏).

Meanwhile, let’s looking at the following:-

🔹 The question above  is equivalent to this question, “Who is Grooming The Boys?”
Because  people always talk about “girl child and how to  protect the girl child” and they leave the boys who turn out to be rapist, cultist, robbers, etc.

– When it comes to marriage, chores, protection, …. girls / women are always the main focus .
Maybe be because the damages are much on them🤷.

What l always tell myself and to people is  To Act right first. Be the right partner and see the magic it brings.

🔹 Oh yes, you can pray for a husband who is not caring or loving.
Prayer changes everything when done in the right way especially when coupled with good works, Attitude, character..

Do not  pray for your husband  and still treat him badly.
ACTIONS they say, SPEAK LOUDER THAN VOICE.
Love conquers all things and some characters / attitudes are better & work faster than shouting, fasting and speaking in tongues.

Most men say, they rule the world and  that it is Men’s World” ,  so anything goes.
Some  back it up with the scripture that women ( she) were not mentioned in the Bible ….that everything is “He” 😀.

🔹 Men should always remember that, women (wives) are “helpers” and not maids…. That means that,  a man doing his laundry, cleaning his house, going for shopping and doing  otherchores before,  can marry to  have a wife who will now  ‘help” (assist) him with some of his  chores and not just taking over completely.
Just like maids are brought  in the house to assist the madam do some simple chores and not for the madam to abdicate all the duties to the maid.

When one person  wants his or her partner to do all the work in the house, then , the house becomes a war zone….hence the incessant fightings, suicide, divorces, etc. all over the world today.

▪️Again,  men ought to understand this fact that they are called GROOM’S or  BRIDEGROOM … Meaning they  should Goom (train, help) their  Brides (wives) to their taste or standard.

How  do they groom or train the bride if they don’t help out by leading by  examples?

There is nothing wrong for  a newly married man to (groom) teach the wife  how to cook, clean the house  or do other chores in love and patience till she blends, learns and starts HELPING out.

Problems always start when a man marries and expects the wife to groom herself and cook all the dishes in the whole world. You married her today, and stopped washing your clothes, going for shopping, etc. 

What if she makes mistake?

I remember the first time l came to my husband’s house, he did the whole chores before l came. He cooked rice, beans and stew for me. The  bed was well and neatly dressed and everywhere was sparkling.

He served the food and after eating, We  took the plates to the kitchen. He did not allow me to wash plates but said that l should only watch him.

He washed, rinsed and then  cleaned the whole plates  with a napkin before putting them in their various cupboards. ( There was no dish washer then).
Imagine if he did not teach ( showed) me how he likes it to be  done ( i.e drying the plates)?

l would have done it in my own way and that is washing without drying the plates as we never did that in my parents house. We only wash and keep in the plate rack.

These are little things which can trigger quarrels in the home.

That’s why it is necessary for couples to communicate very well, correct each other in love and learn from each other.
▪️Remember two of you were raised by different parents and used to different teachings, norms, rules and regulations.

The exposure you have might be quite different from your partner.
So, do not allow the inadequacies of the other partner (which could be corrected in love) to cause troubles in your home.

There was a story of a couple who separated two weeks after their wedding on the case of how to use the toothpaste.
It started as a mere argument on the right way to  use the toothpaste.
One said, the best way is by  pressing from the top and the other disagreed, saying is from the bottom.
This caused
several arguments which later turned to serious quarrel

When none of them could allow the other to win the argument, they  allowed “A common toothpaste” to “paste… ENDED” to their marriage…..what a shame!

MARRIAGE IS A MYSTERY and there is a thin line between love and hate.

Marriage, can offer a “little”  tears at times, yet it has lots of good meals to give if bored with patience, love, humility and prayers.

When a child is scolded or even beaten, does that make her mother to hate the child forever?
Will that make the child to run away?
Will that call for disown?
Will that close all the good memories and Joy’s shared?

👉 Advice to young ones:–

You took time to study, read and passed a 4 or 5 years course in a university…..but when it is time for you to marry, you want to enter into the  marriage with an empty head, F9, carry overs, etc.

* Equip yourself for  MARRIAGE IS NOT A CHILD’S PLAY neither is it a  bed of roses. It does not put an end to suffering either.

👉 Ladies, take time to study about marriage, men, co- wives, in-laws, friends, etc.
Work on yourself, learn how to cook delicious meals. Learn  other delicacies that your mother did not  teach you.

I learnt how to make chin chin, bake cake,  make custard from my friends when l was still in school.

👉 Ladies, if you know, you will not cherish, love and accept your husband’s family / village,  please do not marry him.

Do not separate your husband from his family that nurtured him when you have not even dreamt of getting married.

👉 Guys , do not do gyms only to use it on your wife later.
Train yourselves on how to manage women because ,  they can give “little  headaches” at times😀.

Guys , If you know that you will not love her again after she gives birth,  Please do not marry her. Just  leave her with her parents . Don’t come and put pressures on her that she is too fat, ugly, etc.
Was she that fat before? Was the breast flat before?

🔹In as much as  l hate divorce, l also do not like when l hear she was killed by her husband…..for what use?

If  you cannot tolerate her again or you think that she is worn out and no longer look attractive to you, please return her to her people.
Is better than staining your hands with blood.

Nobody has right over one’s or another person’s life.
If it is paining you and is unbearable, please walk away gently, cry your eyes out, pick up the pieces of scattered life and START ALL OVER AGAIN.
Time will surely heal the wound…that is far better than revenge, killing / murder, suicide.

👉If there’s life, there’s HOPE, new beginning, healing, etc.

▪️please:
#SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE#
#SAY NO TO SUICIDE#
#SAY NO TO MURDER#

LIFE IS PRECIOUS.
LIFE IS SACRED
LIFE IS OWNED BY GOD.
…..you don’t have right to End it.

Drop that EGO.
Kill that ANGER.
Revenge is not the best.
Malice is the worst.

UNFORGIVENESS KILLS oneself gradually.
The damage is  more on the bearer than the offender.

Free your mind today.
Let go of every hurt, hatred and bitterness.
Embrace love.
Remember Death, Rapture, Hell and Heaven.

Don’t force people to live the way you do.
Don’t force people to be your friend.
Don’t force people to accept you.
Don’t bring yourself down.

Know when to walk away
Know when to say No.
Know when to say enough is enough.
Know when to be yourself.
Know when to accept rejection, hatred, criticism, etc…..and work on yourself  to be better and prove them wrong.

They don’t have the last say, God has.
They will only criticize you, but God will qualify you.

Love yourself and do not allow anyone to put you down.
You are very  important and beautiful in your own way.
Nobody is worth dying for.
So walk tall, kill those worries, depressions, and thoughts of ending your life.

Forgive those that offended and hate you.
Ease the burden in your heart. It has tried carrying that anger for a long time.

Above all pray, Pray and pray for God’s wisdom to handle and  tackle every situation.

Remain blessed

©️Akus🌹❤️

You are sure he was not like that before now. He used to be so caring, so loving and so affectionate, but you are lost in trying to find out what actually is the matter with him.

He now keeps late night at drinking parlours; no longer eats your food; no longer talks to you in a friendly way, and is always threatening to do away with you.

Apart from the operation of the wicked satanic forces, l would like you to consider the following factors:-

* Did you stop dressing elegantly?
* Did you stop satisfying his sexual needs?
* Are you a seasoned cook?
* Are you coordinating the affairs of your home prudently?
* Do you still consider it imperative to forgive his errors and let go of every unpleasant past?

Hear me: lt is in your hands to BUILD YOUR HOME….let nothing distract you from doing that.

👉If He Stopped Celebrating The PRINCESS You Are, Maybe You Stopped Treating Him As The ROYALTY He Is!!!

(©️ Bro Frankchima Okorie…. Marriage Clinic)

QUESTION:-

(1.) WHY IS THE FOCUS ALWAYS ON THE WOMAN?

(2.) HOW ABOUT HUSBANDS LOVING THEIR WIVES AS INSTRUCTED BY GOD?

(3.) HOW CAN A WOMAN PRAY FOR AN UNLOVING HUSBAND?

(4.) HOW ABOUT THE WAY CHRIST LED THE CHURCH?

(5.) WHAT SHOULD THE SINGLES  DO TO AVOID COSTLY MISTAKES IN MARRIAGE?

👉 (Please If you have  answers to any of these questions,  kindly share by writing  them on the comment box. Thanks🙏).

Meanwhile, let’s looking at the following:-

🔹 The question above  is equivalent to this question, “Who is Grooming The Boys?”
Because  people always talk about “girl child and how to  protect the girl child” and they leave the boys who turn out to be rapist, cultist, robbers, etc.

– When it comes to marriage, chores, protection, …. girls / women are always the main focus .
Maybe be because the damages are much on them🤷.

What l always tell myself and to people is  To Act right first. Be the right partner and see the magic it brings.

🔹 Oh yes, you can pray for a husband who is not caring or loving.
Prayer changes everything when done in the right way especially when coupled with good works, Attitude, character..

Do not  pray for your husband  and still treat him badly.
ACTIONS they say, SPEAK LOUDER THAN VOICE.
Love conquers all things and some characters / attitudes are better & work faster than shouting, fasting and speaking in tongues.

Most men say, they rule the world and  that it is Men’s World” ,  so anything goes.
Some  back it up with the scripture that women ( she) were not mentioned in the Bible ….that everything is “He” 😀.

🔹 Men should always remember that, women (wives) are “helpers” and not maids…. That means that,  a man doing his laundry, cleaning his house, going for shopping and doing  otherchores before,  can marry to  have a wife who will now  ‘help” (assist) him with some of his  chores and not just taking over completely.
Just like maids are brought  in the house to assist the madam do some simple chores and not for the madam to abdicate all the duties to the maid.

When one person  wants his or her partner to do all the work in the house, then , the house becomes a war zone….hence the incessant fightings, suicide, divorces, etc. all over the world today.

▪️Again,  men ought to understand this fact that they are called GROOM’S or  BRIDEGROOM … Meaning they  should Goom (train, help) their  Brides (wives) to their taste or standard.

How  do they groom or train the bride if they don’t help out by leading by  examples?

There is nothing wrong for  a newly married man to (groom) teach the wife  how to cook, clean the house  or do other chores in love and patience till she blends, learns and starts HELPING out.

Problems always start when a man marries and expects the wife to groom herself and cook all the dishes in the whole world. You married her today, and stopped washing your clothes, going for shopping, etc.

What if she makes mistake?

I remember the first time l came to my husband’s house, he did the whole chores before l came. He cooked rice, beans and stew for me. The  bed was well and neatly dressed and everywhere was sparkling.

He served the food and after eating, We  took the plates to the kitchen. He did not allow me to wash plates but said that l should only watch him.

He washed, rinsed and then  cleaned the whole plates  with a napkin before putting them in their various cupboards. ( There was no dish washer then).
Imagine if he did not teach ( showed) me how he likes it to be  done ( i.e drying the plates)?

l would have done it in my own way and that is washing without drying the plates as we never did that in my parents house. We only wash and keep in the plate rack.

These are little things which can trigger quarrels in the home.

That’s why it is necessary for couples to communicate very well, correct each other in love and learn from each other.
▪️Remember two of you were raised by different parents and used to different teachings, norms, rules and regulations.

The exposure you have might be quite different from your partner.
So, do not allow the inadequacies of the other partner (which could be corrected in love) to cause troubles in your home.

There was a story of a couple who separated two weeks after their wedding on the case of how to use the toothpaste.
It started as a mere argument on the right way to  use the toothpaste.
One said, the best way is by  pressing from the top and the other disagreed, saying is from the bottom.
This caused
several arguments which later turned to serious quarrel

When none of them could allow the other to win the argument, they  allowed “A common toothpaste” to “paste… ENDED” to their marriage…..what a shame!

MARRIAGE IS A MYSTERY and there is a thin line between love and hate.

Marriage, can offer a “little”  tears at times, yet it has lots of good meals to give if bored with patience, love, humility and prayers.

When a child is scolded or even beaten, does that make her mother to hate the child forever?
Will that make the child to run away?
Will that call for disown?
Will that close all the good memories and Joy’s shared?

👉 Advice to young ones:–

You took time to study, read and passed a 4 or 5 years course in a university…..but when it is time for you to marry, you want to enter into the  marriage with an empty head, F9, carry overs, etc.

* Equip yourself for  MARRIAGE IS NOT A CHILD’S PLAY neither is it a  bed of roses. It does not put an end to suffering either.

👉 Ladies, take time to study about marriage, men, co- wives, in-laws, friends, etc.
Work on yourself, learn how to cook delicious meals. Learn  other delicacies that your mother did not  teach you.

I learnt how to make chin chin, bake cake,  make custard from my friends when l was still in school.

👉 Ladies, if you know, you will not cherish, love and accept your husband’s family / village,  please do not marry him.

Do not separate your husband from his family that nurtured him when you have not even dreamt of getting married.

👉 Guys , do not do gyms only to use it on your wife later.
Train yourselves on how to manage women because ,  they can give “little  headaches” at times😀.

Guys , If you know that you will not love her again after she gives birth,  Please do not marry her. Just  leave her with her parents . Don’t come and put pressures on her that she is too fat, ugly, etc.
Was she that fat before? Was the breast flat before?

🔹In as much as  l hate divorce, l also do not like when l hear she was killed by her husband…..for what use?

If  you cannot tolerate her again or you think that she is worn out and no longer look attractive to you, please return her to her people.
Is better than staining your hands with blood.

Nobody has right over one’s or another person’s life.
If it is paining you and is unbearable, please walk away gently, cry your eyes out, pick up the pieces of scattered life and START ALL OVER AGAIN.
Time will surely heal the wound…that is far better than revenge, killing / murder, suicide.

👉If there’s life, there’s HOPE, new beginning, healing, etc.

▪️please:
#SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE#
#SAY NO TO SUICIDE#
#SAY NO TO MURDER#

LIFE IS PRECIOUS.
LIFE IS SACRED
LIFE IS OWNED BY GOD.
…..you don’t have right to End it.

Drop that EGO.
Kill that ANGER.
Revenge is not the best.
Malice is the worst.

UNFORGIVENESS KILLS oneself gradually.
The damage is  more on the bearer than the offender.

Free your mind today.
Let go of every hurt, hatred and bitterness.
Embrace love.
Remember Death, Rapture, Hell and Heaven.

Don’t force people to live the way you do.
Don’t force people to be your friend.
Don’t force people to accept you.
Don’t bring yourself down.

Know when to walk away
Know when to say No.
Know when to say enough is enough.
Know when to be yourself.
Know when to accept rejection, hatred, criticism, etc…..and work on yourself  to be better and prove them wrong.

They don’t have the last say, God has.
They will only criticize you, but God will qualify you.

Love yourself and do not allow anyone to put you down.
You are very  important and beautiful in your own way.
Nobody is worth dying for.
So walk tall, kill those worries, depressions, and thoughts of ending your life.

Forgive those that offended and hate you.
Ease the burden in your heart. It has tried carrying that anger for a long time.

Above all pray, Pray and pray for God’s wisdom to handle and  tackle every situation.

Remain blessed

©️Akus🌹❤️

Akudo Mgbemere

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