The role of a man and a woman in a marriage relationship

The role of a woman in a marriage is submission in all things while that of a man is love as Christ loved the church and gave His life for the church. Every other thing stems from these two.

The Man has a role to Love his wife, even if the woman goes out of shape, he should continue to love her. If the man fails in his own duties, he has questions to answer. Likewise the woman, she is to be Submissive and respectful to her husband. If she too fails her part, she has questions to answer, all before God.

There is no man that will not love a submissive wife except he has a fundamental problem.

But these days, many things have gone wrong in the marriage relationships. Some wives now see themselves as New generation wives; Digital wives; Machine wives and Equal wives. They go by the saying, “What a man can do, a woman can do it even better”. Hence they equate and compete with hubands and fight them in everything.

They challenge the authority of the Man over them, unlike Our forefathers times. That is why the rate of domestic violence is high today.


In this video l shared, Pastor Chris is trying to oppose wives who disrespect their husbands even in public places.
There is nothing that hurts a man than when you insult him in the presence of people. It hurts their ego and they can do anything to protect their pride!

Yes, things have changed so much these days that most women make money more than their husbands and some women are taking advantage of that to insult their husbands and make him less head of the family.


Does the woman being the bread winner automatically remove the headship of a man?


No! Being a bread winner does not remove the headship of a man. Many women these days are bread winners in their homes. And majority of them keep quiet, you won’t know except some few.

Always pray against role reversals in your homes. God has already given everyone their roles to play. There are only two commandments from God to man and woman in a marriage relationship and they are: Submission and love.

Submission to a woman because God knows that it is difficult for a woman to submit hence, the commandment likewise the man. If the two can function in the commandments then there will be no problem whatsoever in any marriage.

WHAT IS SUBMISSION?

Some dictionary meaning states that submission means:-
Surrender, yielding, Obedience, compliance, acquiescence.

Lowliness, humility, meekness, endurance, forbearance, fortitude, patience.

Acknowledgment, confession, penitence, contrition.
Submission: The condition of having submitted to control by someone or something else (ex.: the union was brought into submission; his submission to the will of God)
Submission [n.]: The act of submitting or yielding to power or authority; surrender of the person and power to the control or government of another; obedience; compliance.

SEE GOD’S COMMANDMENTS to man as written in the bible:

▪️Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord (Ephesians 5:22).
▪️For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. (Ephesians 5:23).
▪️Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing (Ephesians 5:24).
▪️Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it (Ephesians 5:25).
▪️So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself (Ephesians 5:28).

▪️Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives (1 Peter 3:1).
▪️While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear (1 Peter:3:2).
▪️Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel (1 Peter 3:3).
▪️But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price (1 Peter 3:4).
▪️For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands (1 Peter 3:5).
▪️Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement (1 Peter 3:6).
▪️Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered (1 Peter 3:7).

▪️But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God (1 Corinthians 11:3)

The bible even mentioned that a woman should be under subjection to a man. A woman can never be equated to the man. It is because of all these equality stance these days that marriages are crumbling. A wise woman who puts herself in her position will even have better control of the man without the man knowing it.

The bible even says that women should subject themselves to their husband’s in ALL things.


LET’S SEE THE DICTIONARY MEANING OF LOVE:

love:- Have affection for, regard with affection, delight in, be fond of. Have a passionate affection for, be pleased with.

love – Affection, affectionate regard, friendship, kindness, tenderness, fondness, delight. Attachment, passionate affection, the tender passion. Liking, fondness, inclination, devotion, strong attachment. Lover, sweetheart. To take delight or pleasure in; to have a strong liking or desire for, or interest in;

Do you know that your true beauty is in submission? You can have full control of a man without his knowing it, by your character?

As a woman, you should know how to handle your husband. Don’t look at other people or friends, because some of them lies and if you try to follow their steps, you put yourself in trouble.

Just discover what works for you and your husband and apply it. Figure out how best to love your partner. The main thing the bible commanded us to do for our husbands is TO HONOUR AND RESPECT THEM!!! That to men worth more than love!!!

……all these things are not automatic. You need to first study your partner and ask God for wisdom on how best to manage him. Same thing for the man.

If we can manage people outside to maintain good relationships, so why not in the home? I know some partners can be very annoying, wicked, frustrating and difficult to manage, but do your own part and leave the rest to God. Prayers solves all problems.

Marriage is very sweet, work it out. IT IS HARDWORK. A wise woman builds her house…..to build is not easy.: A woman’s good character is her beauty. That is the only thing the man sees.

No wonder these “girls” are snatching people’s husbands. Because, they know their onion very well. They first discover the man’s best spot, likes, strength, etc and always act on that……be wise.

In all things, know you that submission is both ways. While the man is to his wife’s need to feel loved, the wife submits to her husband’s need to feel respected.

Akudo Mgbemere

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