Dear husbands,
Sex is an emotional journey for women in case you haven’t noticed. This is why young girls lose their virginity to guys for one reason only: to prove that they love the guy.
If you complain that your wife is not enthusiastic about sex, ask yourself what her schedules are like, what her health status is, whether she is on an emotional rollercoaster. Ask yourself what you’re doing to help ease her stress. So many women are being the man and woman in their marriages and they are still required to have sex at night.
Picture this:
Mrs Zee wakes up by 5:00am everyday to prepare breakfast and lunch for her children, bathes them and does school runs while she goes to work. She is heading a unit at work and comes home by 6:00pm with the children and sorts our their meals, uniforms, homework and makes sure to tuck them into bed at night. She has to tidy up some work as soon as the last child has slept. Once she’s done with work, it’s 10, sometimes 10:30pm and she is off to bed and the cycle continues.
If you empathise with her (putting yourself in her shoes) you will know that sex is not priority to her. She is familiar with migraines and fatigue. She needs something to ease tension. I agree that sex is a natural relaxant but her mind needs to feel clear before she can open up to you. This goes beyond a 15 minute talk session with her. Your wife needs to connect emotionally with you before she will make love to you.
You need to decide if you need to get external help if possible that can help with chores around the house. Some men refuse getting house helps or nannies in their homes. If this is you, you can chip in with chores and you will find that doing chores together will increase bonding time and increase your chances of making out. Lol!!!
Don’t wonder why your lovemaking tempo has gone down now that you have kids if you’re not a hands-on dad and husband.
Bottom line, if you really want your wife to be passionately involved with you sexually, you need to make her happy and as stress-free as possible. She needs to know you care about her and the only way she’d know is if you show her. If you show her, you will NEVER beg for sex.
To your family wellness!!!
©Chioma Eti.
